Know God’s will choosing your life partner (part II)
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We have seen three fundamental principles for a marriage according to God’s will and Word in the first part of this study. It is important to marry a girl or a guy who is from the people of God, that will not deviate you from the call you have for your life and to put priority on the character of that certain person. We will continue to look at other principles found in Genesis, chapter 24.
4. God will provide other things, when you set priority of the treats of character when choosing your life partner
We can easily find this principle, as this story continues:
Before he had finished speaking, behold, Rebekah who was born to Bethuel the son of Milcah, the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor, came out with her jar on her shoulder. The girl was very beautiful, a virgin, and no man had had relations with her; and she went down to the spring and filled her jar and came up. Then the servant ran to meet her, and said, “Please let me drink a little water from your jar.” She said, “Drink, my lord”; and she quickly lowered her jar to her hand, and gave him a drink. Now when she had finished giving him a drink, she said, “I will draw also for your camels until they have finished drinking.” So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough, and ran back to the well to draw, and she drew for all his camels. Meanwhile, the man was gazing at her in silence, to know whether the LORD had made his journey successful or not. When the camels had finished drinking, the man took a gold ring weighing a half-shekel and two bracelets for her wrists weighing ten shekels in gold, and said, “Whose daughter are you? Please tell me, is there room for us to lodge in your father’s house?” She said to him, “I am the daughter of Bethuel, the son of Milcah, whom she bore to Nahor.” Again she said to him, “We have plenty of both straw and feed, and room to lodge in.” Then the man bowed low and worshiped the LORD. He said, “Blessed be the LORD, the God of my master Abraham, who has not forsaken His lovingkindness and His truth toward my master; as for me, the LORD has guided me in the way to the house of my master’s brothers.” (Genesis 24:15–27)(NASB)
Every man wants to have a good-looking wife and, for many times this is the first and the unique criteria how they find their life partners and then, this creates many problems. The servant of Abraham set other priorities when he was choosing a wife for Isaac. He wanted to find a woman with the most beautiful character. And God provided other things too and the Bible says that the “the girl was very beautiful”. Choose to marry a person with a beautiful character and God will take care about all other things as well.
5. God’s will for you is to marry a person who knows to build up and to maintain beautiful relations
Nowadays there are extremely sophisticated means of communication, but people are less capable to build up beautiful relations. Family is the place where we learn to build up relations and it is the index to the relations we have built and maintained. Rebekah knew to build up beautiful relations with her family. Here is what the Bibles tells us:
Then the girl ran and told her mother’s household about these things. Now Rebekah had a brother whose name was Laban; and Laban ran outside to the man at the spring. When he saw the ring and the bracelets on his sister’s wrists, and when he heard the words of Rebekah his sister, saying, “This is what the man said to me,” he went to the man; and behold, he was standing by the camels at the spring. And he said, “Come in, blessed of the LORD! Why do you stand outside since I have prepared the house, and a place for the camels?” So the man entered the house. Then Laban unloaded the camels, and he gave straw and feed to the camels, and water to wash his feet and the feet of the men who were with him. (Genesis 24:28–33)(NASB)
It is wise and important to find out what relation has the person you want to marry with her household. If people manage to show something else than they really are in other places, they don’t manage to hide anything from their family. There they show their real face. That’s why, find out about the relations this person has with the members of her family and don’t avoid this thing when you make your decision.
6. God’s will for you is to be blessed by your parents in your marriage
After they had dinner, the servant of Abraham told them all that had happened and then he added:
“So now if you are going to deal kindly and truly with my master, tell me; and if not, let me know, that I may turn to the right hand or the left.” Then Laban and Bethuel replied, “The matter comes from the LORD; so we cannot speak to you bad or good. Here is Rebekah before you, take her and go, and let her be the wife of your master’s son, as the LORD has spoken.” (Genesis 24:49–51)(NASB)
When I went to Pakistan for the first time to teach there the Word of God at the Inductive Bible Study Institute from that country, I was greatly surprised to find out that all my brothers and friends had been married by their parents. I even remember how we were having our meal and when I was wondering about that and asked every couple when and how they had met, almost all of them said they had met for the first time in their wedding day and that their parents had arranged the marriage. I could not understand and I kept wondering, how was that possible nowadays. One of them, told me: “We also can not understand how can your parents trust you, when you are so young, and lack wisdom and experience, and let you make such an important decision for the rest of your life.” Maybe this is an extreme for them, but it is also an extreme for us, when children don’t consider their parents opinion concerning their marriage. It is wise to talk to your parents, to listen to their advice for your marriage and how blessed is the guy or the girl whose parents are believers in the Lord Jesus Christ and can advise them from the Holy Scriptures.
Come again tomorrow and we will continue to look at the fundamental principles you can take as a guide to make a wise decisions for a happy marriage.
Translated by Felicia Djugostran
